Down, Boy! How to Have More Oral Sex

Down, Boy! How to Have More Oral Sex 

Want more oral sex but feel weird about asking for it? Truth is, most guys really want to go below the belt-some just need a little more encouragement

They say all's fair in love and war, but when it comes to going down, things just aren't. A full half of twenty-something guys revealed that they had received oral sex in the past month, compared with just over a third of women, per a recent study done by the National Survey of Sexual Health and Behavior.
While two-thirds of WH readers say they wish their guy would go south more often, 49 percent are too shy to make the request. It's time to even the score, sisters!
What's Holding Him Back?Before you can get him down to business, you need to figure out why he's been lax. Chances are it's not because he's lazy.
1. Mixed SignalsNearly 63 percent of guys in a recent Men's Health survey said that what keeps them from going down on a woman is her "no thanks" vibe. It could be that if you turned him down during your period or immediately post-gym, your guy may have gotten the impression that you're not into oral at all. So clear things up. After the next time you take a trip downtown, during the afterglow, say something nonaccusatory like, "Hey, you're so good at going down on me, and I'm dying for more," suggests sex therapist Lori Hollander, founder of the Center for Real Intimacy in Ann Arbor, Michigan.
2. Tunnel VisionGuys can be so focused on sliding into home that they forget how mind-blowing-and necessary-clitoral stimulation can be for you, says sexuality counselor Ian Kerner, Ph.D., coauthor of The Big Fun Sexy Sex Book. If your partner heads south only sporadically and doesn't stay long, Kerner suggests you tell him that your orgasms from oral sex are often more intense than they are when he's inside you, and that you'd like to finish that way once in a while before moving on to intercourse.

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