Her Favorite Sex Toys 6 Lessons You Can Learn from Her Sex Toys

Her Favorite Sex Toys 6 Lessons You Can Learn from Her Sex Toys 

Study her gadgets and unlock the secrets to pleasing her every time

 

 So, your ladyis using toys. We can see how this might feel threatening-like she's replacing you with a better, battery-operated alternative. But if she's really into her vibrator, it doesn't mean she isn't getting enough from you. Over half of women have used sex toys, according to a study in the Journal of Sexual Medicine, so there's a good chance she's got one stashed somewhere in her drawer.
Since not all toys are created equal, her toy-of-choice can provide insight into what she really wants from you. Learn these six lessons from her sex gadgets, and you'll soon be irreplaceable.
1 . The Classic Vibrator
A good vibrator is like a Volvo: dependable, powerful, and a reliable way to get from point A to point O. "If she's using something electric, like the Hitachi Magic Wand, then you know she's definitely into the power," says Sadie Allison, Ph.D., author of The Mystery of the Undercover Clitoris. Allison says women are attracted to the variety in a classic multispeed vibrator: She can speed up, slow down, and vary the pressure until she's right there.
The takeaway: It's not all about hitting one speed. Start slow and easy before you rev ​​up and build toward climax. You can diversify your intensity, too, by alternating between hard-and-fast pumps and the slow-and-gentle kind.
2 . The Bullet Vibe
If she's using a bullet vibrator-one of those small, thumb-sized vibes shaped like a bullet shell-then she's definitely targeting her clitoris. Crammed with thousands of nerve-endings, the clitoris is a one-way ticket to orgasm, so it's not surprising that lots of women focus here. Similarly, she might be using a vibe like Jimmyjane's Form 3 or the Minna Limon, which are shaped to cover the clitoris and the surrounding area.
The takeaway: Rather than going straight to thrusting, spend some time giving TLC to her clitoris. Try warming her up with a little clitoral play, and move into sex positions that hit her C-spot, like woman-on-top or missionary with your hips tilted forward.
3 . The Rabbit
Named for their two-pronged bunny-ear shape, rabbit vibrators are designed to hit two spots at once-like Lelo's Soraya dual-action vibrator, which stimulates both the clitoris and the G-spot simultaneously. These are the Ferraris of sex toys: they have all the power of a classic vibe, with twice the intensity.
The takeaway: Bring it to the next level by stimulating more than one spot at a time. If your lady is using her toy both internally and externally, it's a sign to "pay more attention to her needs and focus on giving her pleasure all over her body," says Kathryn Catney, a representative from Lelo. During oral sex, use your tongue to hit her clitoris while your fingers find her G-spot; during intercourse, enter from behind while you reach around to push her pleasure button.
4 . The Dildo
Sometimes, sex toys are straightforward, like the dildo. Typically large and phallic-shaped, it's the closest thing to a "replacement penis" out there. But before you get huffy about being swapped for a synthetic lookalike, remind yourself that the girl who uses a dildo likes the same type of equipment you already have. The difference? She can control it. "If she has a dildo, that means she really likes penetration," says Allison. Look closely at her dildo of choice, Allison says-specifically, the size and the shape.
The takeaway: If her dildo is pornstar-huge, don't get a bruised ego. This could just be an indication that she likes super-deep penetration-and that's a win-win for both of you. No matter the size, let her be in charge of controlling the thrusts. That way, she can maneuver you around just how she likes.
5 . Arousal Oils
There are sex toys, and then there are sex oils. We're talking about the tingling, tantalizing gels and lubes that can take pleasure up a notch by making her ultra-sensitive down there. A woman who puts this much effort into the preparation definitely enjoys a big payoff in the end.
The takeaway: Don't skimp on the foreplay. Whether it's giving her oral or manual stimulation or just playing with the oils themselves, make sure her engine is hot before you start. Plus, it goes without saying that everything feels better when it's slippery-so wait until she's all lubed up before anything else.
6 . Sex Toys for Couples
If she's already using solo sex toys, she'll likely love trying them with a partner-aka you. "Men are becoming more open to using toys in the bedroom, and surprisingly more couples than singles tend to buy our products," says Catney. According to a 2014 survey by Lelo, 72 percent of sex toy owners use them with their partners.

 

 

Fulfill Her Sex Fantasies

Ever since FiftyShades of Grey hit the shelves at your local bookstore and proceeded to sell more than 40 million copies worldwide (and counting), one thing has been made abundantly clear: Women want more sex-and they want it extra freaky. "This book is clear evidence that women are craving more adventurous sex," says Sara Gottfried, MD, OB / GYN, author of The Hormone Cure.

As for just how E.L. James managed to tap into the wild side you've been dying to awaken in your lady for years, well, we're stumped. . . but we're also stoked. (On behalf of men everywhere, we owe you one, EL)
In case you haven't sneaked a peek at her favorite summer read, allow us to give you the ultra-quick breakdown: The Fifty Shades trilogy-yup, there are three of the books-highlights the passionate love affair between college virgin Anastasia Steele and the enigmatic Christian Grey, who just so happens to be filthy rich, insanely good looking, and super into BDSM.
Groan, right? But here's what Grey can do for you: If your partner loves reading about being spanked and dominated, she may be willing to give it a try in the bedroom. And that's where you come in.
We read Fifty Shades so you never, ever have to, and then consulted sex experts about the raunchy moves women are most likely to love. Your mission: Use each one to push the mysterious man out of the picture and win back your woman's fantasies for good. For more hot pleasure tips and secrets from the fairer sex, discover What Every Woman Wants.
Speak Your Mind Women are into dirty talk, plain and simple. "One of the things women love about Grey's character is how straightforward he is when it comes to what he wants," says Dr. Gottfried. "He verbalizes what turns him on, and women are hungry-almost desperate-for that thrill." Take this exchange from page 114:
"Show me how you pleasure yourself."
What? I frown.
"Don't be coy, Ana, show me," he whispers.
I shake my head. "I don't know what you mean." My voice is hoarse. I hardly recognize it, laced with desire.
"How do you make yourself come? I want to see. "

Obviously it's not smooth to blurt out every random, sex-infused thought that crosses your mind. But women want to know what you find hot and what you want in bed-it's a turn on, says Dr. Gottfried. (Learn how to woo your woman with the art of dirty talk, and 7 other Red-Hot Ways to Have More Sex.)
Redefine Foreplay It's not rocket science: Foreplay is essential. But if you want to make her toes curl in ecstasy, it's time to reinvent your routine. "Men don't realize just how dialed back foreplay is for women," Dr. Gottfried says. "Foreplay shouldn't just consist of some kissing and breast play 10 minutes before you do the deed." Your move: Take the passion outside the bedroom. Let her know her body is on your mind, even though you can't have her at that very moment. Take this scene from page 78:
He lunges at me, pushing me against the wall of the elevator. Before I know it, he's got both of my hands in his viselike grip above my head, and he's pinning me to the wall using his hips. . . His other hand grabs my hair and yanks down, bringing my face up, and his lips are on mine. . . My tongue tentatively strokes his and joins his in a slow, erotic dance. . . He brings his hand up to grasp my chin and holds me in place. . . and his hips restraining me. His erection is against my belly.We'll stop there. Again, we're not telling you to spontaneously lunge at gorgeous women in elevators (unless you've been dying to meet cops). But if you want her to crave your body by the time you finally reach the bedroom, you must start tempting and teasing long before you hit the sheets, Dr. Gottfried says. A simple move: Shoot her a sext at work telling her how much you can't wait to please her tonight. (Try these tips to unleash your power where it matter most-in bed!)
Move Beyond Boring Sex Missionary can be nice. Missionary can be romantic. But missionary should never become the comfortable standard. Your move: Step outside that vanilla box. "Women find Grey's knowledge and dominance in the bedroom so sexy," says Dr. Gottfried. Now, you may not be ready to turn that extra bedroom into your very own "red room of pain" - (ahem, page 98)-but there are subtle things you can try to get a taste of what's outside your comfort zone.
Usually all it takes is a simple conversation, says Dr. Gottfried. If you want to try handcuffs, spanking, or sex toys, bring it up during pillow talk. "Confidence is a man's best friend, and it can be such a turn-on," Dr. Gottfried says. So if you're unapologetic and honest about what you want, she's more likely to be receptive to it. (Once she signs off, start shopping and pick up The Best Sex Toys for Men.)

 

 

 

Learn to Love the Glove

Or at least try not to hate the jimmy hat quite so much

 It's apparent thatguys have a love / hate relationship with their condoms. On the bright side, there's really no need to worry about being a parent before you're ready, and your risk of getting a nasty STD is minimized greatly. But we get that the pleasure can dive compared to going bare. Throw in the loss of intimacy that comes with trying to unwrap one of the suckers under pressure and there's no wonder guys would rather not bother. But if you try these three smart practices for getting to know your condom better, we promise the situation will be a lot less cumbersome.
FIND YOUR SIZEAn ill-fitting rubber is an "oops" in the making. "If it's too tight, it's more likely to break," says Richard Crosby, Ph.D., a sex researcher at the University of Kentucky, "and if it's too loose, it won't stay on." The key to a good fit? "Buy a snug, a standard, and a large condom from the major brands," says Crosby. Test them during masturbation. "It's like trying on jeans-you can tell right away which pair you feel most comfortable in."
SHOP FOR TWOYour own condom contentment is important, but if your mate isn't happy, you'll be only halfway to satisfying sex, says sex researcher Jenny Higgins, Ph.D., MPH, at the University of Wisconsin. Guys focus on fit and feel, she says, "but for many women, a condom's lubrication is much more important." Your play: Avoid rubbers with spermicidal lubricants, which can irritate vaginal tissues, and keep a tube of water-based lube ready.
SCHEDULE DRESS REHEARSALSTrying to don a condom under pressure can lead to mistakes and erection-wilting stress. Fortunately, a study by Crosby found a solution young guys embraced: Practice putting on a condom during masturbation. "Experimenting in privacy removed any pressure, awkwardness, and sense of being judged, and allowed them to master this skill," he says. The idea is to replace conscious thought with reflexive action.